Statistics say that:
“Approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies and resort to dieting to achieve their ideal body shape. … In a survey, more than 40% of women and about 20% of men agreed they would consider cosmetic surgery in the future” http://www.dosomething.org
It could be that most of us are deeply unsatisfied with the way we look, if we’re honest we have all wanted to go to drastic measures to do something be it a diet, do extreme exercise routines and some form of diet pills. The problem is, what happens when we get to our dream body and we’re still unsatisfied?
The media has commercialized female bodies, they’ve limited them to a means to show case a product, be it clothing, make up or home decor, bodies are used as a means to generate income instead of what they were intended for, which was the safe keeping of our souls.
Walk into any mall and you’ll see, hundreds of women on windows displaying clothing with their small bodies and making people strive for the unattainable. Celebrities walk into the lime light embracing their full bodies and later succumb to pressure from people who care more about their appearances that what they have come to be known for which is their talents.
Who gets to define what beauty really is? Who gets to tell women that their bodies are enough, that they can give up on ideal bodies and work on their hearts, that external beauty is not the main focus no matter what we’ve been told.
I have no problem with striving to live a healthier, working out and trying to improve yourself. I think it’s commendable but I do not think that it is everything, there is more to beauty than being twig thin. There is more to beauty than having a perfect face. The bible says:
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:3 (emphasis my own)
Real beauty isn’t measured by outside appearance it is measured by gentleness, especially when you are surrounded with harshness, the world is harsh. It is a quiet beauty, not constantly fighting to be seen like the world, but listening deep and being kind.
Maybe after lock-down your body has changed and you’re being really hard on yourself and it seems everyone looks perfect and you’re tucking your stomach in, out of discomfort and you’re avoiding mirrors, taking photos and anything that reminds you of how far you are from your goal, this is for you:
Your body was made to house your soul, speak kindly to it. Your body was made beautifully especially if it has housed beautiful babies and has been their home, or if it has carried you through life, yes it may have changed over the years but it is beautiful none the less. Society uses bodies for commercial purposes, YOU are always more. More than any mirror or scale or photograph could say, you get to define beauty by being kind and gentle, especially with yourself. Work more on your internal beauty and see how externally things will start to change.
Forget about what everyone wants you to look like and fall in love with yourself right where you are. No matter the size, body type or skin problem. Your are worth far more than rubies. You are a form of Art, the most beautiful kind. Always remind yourself of that.
You are Art
“For we are His workmanship [His own master work, a work of art], created in Christ Jesus [reborn from above—spiritually transformed, renewed, ready to be used] for good works, which God prepared [for us] beforehand [taking paths which He set], so that we would walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us]”